Often, our misunderstandings about love are born in disruptive family relationships, where someone was either one-up or one-down to an extreme. There is an appropriate and necessary difference in the balance of power between parents and young children, but in the best situations, there should be no power struggles by the time those children have become adults - just deep connection, trust, and respect between people who sincerely care about each other. In disruptive families, children are taught to remain one-up or one-down into adulthood. And this produces immature adults who either seek to dominate others (one-up) or who allow themselves to be dominated (one-down) in their relationships - one powerful and one needy, one enabling and one addicted, one decisive and one confused. In relationships with these people, manipulation abounds. Especially when they start to feel out of control. Tim Clinton
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The first quote says that a relationship is dysfunctional when a person feels as if they are being dominated. In addition, the second quote states that a relationship is dysfunctional when one person feels as if they are being dominated. It’s fine to have the power in a relationship, but it’s not healthy to allow yourself to feel as though you don’t have control of the situation.

Source: Break Through: When To Give In, How To Push Back: The Moment That Changes Everything

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